Going through my instagram feed the other day as per usual, I double tapped a womans photo of her and her gorgeous new born, it was a side by side of her baby belly and post birth, then i saw it…
“You Don’t Look like you’ve had a baby.”
I had to double take, that was all the comment said and it struck a nerve. I’m assuming it was intended as a compliment but couldn’t they have just said, “You look amazing”
but it has had me thinking, what is a woman who just had a baby supposed to look like? Are we meant to look a hot mess with spastic hair and pure exhaustion? do people expect a disaster when seeing a woman after birth? I mean 9 times out of 10 a woman is going to put her best pic forward on social media but whether we look flawless or exhausted, the last thing we want you to comment on is whether or not we fit the “just gave birth” stereotype!
We are so full of love and appreciation for the gift we have just received that we don’t care how we look. The sudden jolt into Mom mode takes all those cares away.
So i guess my point is… don’t tell someone they don’t look like they just had a baby, tell them congratulations, compliment our gift and if you have to comment on our looks, tell us we look amazing because a compliment never hurts 🙂