Comparison is a Battle you will Never Win

Today is a normal day, #momlife trip to the supermarket for some essentials, and then i saw her.. A woman I went to Highschool with. This Woman is Stunning, she has the most amazing figure, gorgeous fashion sense, she is a real estate agent so she can afford luxury items and She drives an SUV.

As soon as I saw her, I buckled, I felt like that awkward emo fat girl from school again who felt like I should be losing weight and barely eat to look like her, and get segregated because i’m copying her out of envy.

I Immediately bowed my head hoping she wouldn’t recognise me and then my inner mean girl started talking/yelling in my head “you’re twice the size you were in school, you slob” “haha she has the job, the car, the body and you have nothing” “Kristy, Face it, You’re the BIGGEST Loser ever””You’ll Never be as pretty and successful as her!”

But you Know what, NO! I don’t WANT the Job, I can’t sell to save my life, I want to be a blogger full time. Yeah Okay I’d love a figure like hers but I will work Hard to get a figure that is perfect for me and i will have earned the beautiful slimmer clothing I will be able to wear. Kristy You have 2 amazing children and a Loving Adoring Husband And you have a fantastic life to look forward to.

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You never know what other people are going through behind the scenes, what they have been through or, what they are going through. We can only see what they want you to see from the outside.

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I will have my perfect life and i have a pretty damn amazing one now.

Dont Compare yourself to others, Its a battle you will never win.

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Learn to love the person you are and the life you have now, and strive to achieve your dreams.

K x

P.s If you Do Read this I am So proud of the person you are, the hard work you have put in to have the life you have. I hope you achieve all of your life goals and dreams. Hopefully next time I wont be so bitter and embarrassed and I will Say Hello instead of pretending i’m invisible.

p.p.s I have updated this post to more descriptively portray the emotion that went into the encounter. This post was never about her, or her as a person. The simple fact is she inspired the post because of how i regressed to a depressed state when i saw my high school past in front of me, but it was never about her as a person.

Every Day Makeup

Well this is a first! I have never done a beauty post before but im really getting back into my make up and what better place to start than with my everyday products.

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Primers :: She Pure magic primer & Nutrimetic line prime

Foundation :: Za BB Cream and Thin Lizzy Concealer cream

Concealer :: Natio Natural Concealer & LA Girl Pro Conceal

Powder :: Rimmel London Stay Matte Powder

Bronzer/Contour :: Thin Lizzy 6 in 1

Blusher :: Nutrimetics Pure Touch Blush in Plum

Highlighter :: Dollar store brand “Shiny Powder”

Then onto eyes and brows!

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I like to keep it very basic for my eyes,

Brows :: For my brows i use the Nutrimetics Glam Colour palette and i like to use the brown eyeliner shadow, it gives a nice bold brow that lasts all day

Eyes :: If i use eyeshadow i reach for the Nutrimetics eye brow kit. It has all the perfect shades for an all over colour, browbone and inner corner highlight as well as a great light brown for the crease and darker brown to either darken the outer corner for a smokey look or to use on the lash line as a smudged liner

Lashes :: I use the Nutrimetics liquid eye definer for a cat winged liner and for mascara I am obsessed with the Za Perfect Action Waterproof Mascara, it literally does not move! For a little extra volume i will usually layer that with my Nutrimetics 4 in one Ultimate Mascara, followed by that, depending on what mood i’m in i will use the Nutrimetics Defining waterproof eye pencil in my waterline to give my eyes a more sultry look

Then for lips ::

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Lips :: I stay very neutral with my lips as i am a chronic lip smusher so lip products dont tend to last well on me when im alway rubbing my lips together, so my fave it the Natio Long Lasting Lip liner in Nude, But unfortunately i am coming to the end of that one so I have been reaching for my Nutrimetics Perfecting Lip Pencil in Nude, and if i feel like gloss I will reach for my Nutrimetics Lip Lightening Gloss in Blush rose.

Now I now there is ALOT of Nutrimetics products so I will tell you here that I used to be a consultant for Nutrimetics, so i still have alot of their products left that i tend to use, they are very nice products but there are definitely alternative products out there that you can use instead. These are just what I use right now.

I have filmed a get ready with me video to go alongside this post so you can see how I apply these products, when that video is live I will add a link HERE.

I hope you liked this kind of post as it is a new one for me, let me know your thoughts in the comments, and if you have any products to recommend then please let me know 🙂

K x

 

 

You don’t Look like you had a baby?

Going through my instagram feed the other day as per usual, I double tapped a womans photo of her and her gorgeous new born, it was a side by side of her baby belly and post birth, then i saw it…

“You Don’t Look like you’ve had a baby.”

I had to double take, that was all the comment said and it struck a nerve. I’m assuming it was intended as a compliment but couldn’t they have just said, “You look amazing”

but it has had me thinking, what is a woman who just had a baby supposed to look like? Are we meant to look a hot mess with spastic hair and pure exhaustion? do people expect a disaster when seeing a woman after birth? I mean 9 times out of 10 a woman is going to put her best pic forward on social media but whether we look flawless or exhausted, the last thing we want you to comment on is whether or not we fit the “just gave birth” stereotype!

We are so full of love and appreciation for the gift we have just received that we don’t care how we look. The sudden jolt into Mom mode takes all those cares away.

So i guess my point is… don’t tell someone they don’t look like they just had a baby, tell them congratulations, compliment our gift and if you have to comment on our looks, tell us we look amazing because a compliment never hurts 🙂

K x

Zoo Adventures

A spontaneous call from a friend ended in a super fun adventure at Hamilton Zoo!

Amazing company and smiling laughing children is just what the doctor ordered!

My favourite photo is this one..

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Its the first full length photo of me that i love! Thanks to a little help from a Carly Christman YouTube Video I learnt how to pose my voluptuous body in a flattering way, and those two little smiles are just pure perfection and joy.

Their favourite animals were the monkeys, they got so giddy everytime they saw another species of monkey! It was absolutely adorable!

The icing on the cake was a little baby monkey play fighting with what i assumed to be his brothers!

I cannot wait for the next adventure with my babies! and thank you Becky for inviting us to spend the day with you an Estelle ❤️️

 

Kx

New Years Res #1 – CHECK

On my previous post i wrote down a few small goals i had for myself this year, and wholly shit would you believe it, I ACHIEVED A GOAL!

Over this past week My Husband, my children and myself moved into our own home (a rental of course, buying a home.. Pssh too much commitment for me just yet!)

We found the perfect little 4 bedroom home with a fenced back section, fireplace and open plan living dining and kitchen area, both kids get their own room and hubby and i get n office/filming space! it is perfection

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We are still finding homes for things and getting out hands on furniture as we had none from our downsize when we moved to this town but the privacy, the accomplishment and feeling like an adult again who is in control of my own life and home is by far the best feeling in the world.

Dont get me wrong, i am super appreciative and grateful to my mom for taking us in when we went through a tough spot, but it is our time to move onward and upwards.

2017 is our year to achieve our goals! Have you got any specific goals that you want to achieve or have already achieved? I would love to know!

2016 Can fuck right off! | New Years Resolutions

As you have probably noticed, i have been MIA for the last month and a bit, with good reason I promise.

If you saw my last post you know that my grandmother died last month after a very short and sudden battle with melanoma cancer. From diagnosis to death was about 6-8 weeks. For an extremely healthy and active 67 year old, its safe to say we are still in shock. I took a leave of absence from all my social media since as i couldnt pretend that everything was okay anymore. I was drowning, i would cuddle a blanket that she made me every night to fall asleep and if i didnt have that blanket then i would cry.

I found a screenshot in my camera roll of a text message she sent me when she was sick, 1 month before she died.

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This Broke Me!
Then a few days later at my new job, my facebook memories showed me this gem on Boxing day.

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This was Molly’s First Christmas, and for those of you who haven’t seen my Name reveal video on my You-tube, wont know that Molly’s Full Name is Molly Elizabeth, After my Nana, Elizabeth Margaret. This was a huge honor to my Nana and it quickly developed a beautiful bond between the two, even if molly hadn’t seen Nana in months, she always knew who she was and opened arms wide for a cuddle (even if she was having a clingy day and wouldn’t go near anyone else. Molly always opened her arms for her Great Nana.
So of course memories of this day and every other moment these two shared, and the notion that there will be no more pages to their book brought me to the floor, at work.

So as you can see, its been a hard road. and its not getting any easier, I’m just learning to cope better. But Nana wouldn’t want me to be this sad, she would want me to have my moment and then pull myself up and continue.

One thing i wanted to do before we knew how long she had left was show her that i can be the strong and independent woman she would want me to be, healthy mind body and soul and doing what I love. She grew her wings before i could show her that im not a loser. So with that i move on and up, 2016 held nothing special for me, I coasted through the whole year, i achieved nothing other than gaining another 10 kg.

I know they always say not to push for goals unless they are for yourself but i have a very minuscule opinion of myself and cant even get out of my bed for myself at my level of depression, so Nana, I will achieve my goals, FOR YOU.

So with the negative out of the way, here are a few very small and very achievable goals I have set for myself so next Christmas is filled with positivity and accomplishment

  • Move out of my Mums and into a Rental of our own (well on our way to this as we are viewing 2 houses next week)
  • Lose 2-4 kg per month
  • Upload a blog post 1- 2 times per week
  • Upload 1 youtube video per week
  • Save Money
  • Do 1 photo-shoot by the end of the year (Jackie If you read this, Your my goals ❤ )

I figure the smaller the goal, the more achievable it is. I am constantly attached to Facebook so i will link my public page here so you can see how im going, see when i upload new content and share your journey with me as well! I also have a private group too if you want to join that, here. (I havent used it in a long time but i would like to have a space where more private people can share where they are at x)

2017 will NOT be another fail year!! We got this Babies!

K x

 

 

It’s the small things

Last week i had one of the most productive “good mom” feeling days I have had in a while, we had plans to meet up with a friend of mine for a picnic at the lake so our children could run around and play while we chat!

So we got up early, packed a huge lunch and even condiments to make sandwiches, we had all kinds of fruit and snacks and set on our way.

Immediately the kids bolted to the playground and daddy was first round spectator while I prepped some sandwiches and played best fiends to pass the time till my friend and her family arrived.

Mid streak of my green leaves in level 66 I heard a lady whisper “excuse me” behind me, it was a gorgeous blonde haired woman in a dilemma, Her daughter had filled her nappy and they had forgotten their baby wipes, Of course I responded with a “Oh my gosh of course, I have been there plenty of times” And handed her the whole packet so she could use as many as she needed.

It made me think about times where I have forgotten something as simple as the baby wipes, I felt useless, the mean girl voice would tell me that i was a bad mom for forgetting something like wipes. Now i’m definitely not saying that she felt this way but we never know what people are feeling or thinking. I would have loved to have had the courage to ask a random person for wipes, for me: I would have just accepted defeat and gone home, despite having only just arrived. So to be able to do something like help a new mom out with a few baby wipes could have helped her make the most of her afternoon in the sun.

Look out for one another, even the smallest thing could change someones life

K x